Be the Doorman
Let us explain this to you! We are asking
you to be the doorman of your thoughts (not the actual doorman) for
If a doorman works in a busy hotel (busy mind), he will see a lot of people coming in and out of the entrance. His job is to welcome the guests (the thoughts) and keep the hotel a safe and peaceful place. Some “negative” guests are tricky. They try to engage the doorman in their conversation to steal his attention. The best strategy to deal with the "bad" guests is to simply acknowledge them and not react or attach to their conversation(s). Just breathe and observe, so he won’t get lost. A good doorman needs to greet every guest who comes in the door and acknowledge them kindly, equally, and non-judgmentally. All guests have one thing in common: they are temporary, just like thoughts.
Sit down, take 3 deep breaths. Practice sitting meditation for 10 or 15 minutes. You are the doorman and the objects of the meditation are your guests (the thoughts). Practice observing and acknowledging your thoughts/emotions when they come up and gently let them pass by.